Monthly Archives: September 2008

Coming to one of the MOST discussed topics and the most popular one that I have ever hosted shows about one the local radio in Norway as well as Wakas Mir LIVE.

I felt a sudden rush of activity of my braincells trying to relocate where all the mindsets are being formed, as so many people would come on air to discuss this touchy topic. Some would share amazing experiences of being married to their cousins , while the others would just reject any theory that shows that marriage in a family does work.

In one show we had a female caller from Norway, the moment she was on air she goes “Wakas beta how can we allow our one and only daughter who is a chaudhry to be married into a to a totally different family” I was amazed, shocked and sad and all those emotions I had to portray to her as well saying “I don’t know where in our Quran it says anything like that, and I am so amazed over this since you are trying to bring the whole topic to a standstill by just nailing it right on the head. As if this is written in stone, that if one is chaudhry or gujjar they can’t marry someone else from another caste just because they think they are superior. Well are you more superior than the others tuned in now? Or aunty ji is it this that when you ever had the chance to see your blood it comes out as a different color than someone else’s”

It’s amazing how some people can go to the extreme of taking such thoughts and go public with them as if it is something they should be proud of.

What are your views on this. Yes, I am not against marriages in a family. BUT what I am against is mindsets that make living hell for girls and guys to be FORCED to believe that it is NOT right to go out of the family just because “The parents feel they are better” and so on…

Do share your views.. thx

The thing that most of us humans enjoy these days and feel as if its the only thing that will make our gatherings enjoyable is talking behind someone’s back. How can we stop from doing this?

It’s said that talking behind someone’s back is like eating your dead brothers flesh. Not only that, but as our Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said once to one of his companions. “I can guarantee you a place in heaven if you can guarantee me two things” when asked what these things were.. he said “One is to control your tongue, and other is your lust (for vulgar acts)”

In one occasion, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)’s wife Hazrat Aisha (Radhiyallahu-Anha) once said something about someone that this and that person has a short height. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) in response said “Aisha if at this very moment your tongue is placed in the largest of oceans, the whole ocean would become poison“.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said :”Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “God and His Messenger know best.” He then said, “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.” Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” The Messenger of God (pbuh) said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him.”

How many times have you heard someone say:-

• He is black
• He is short
• He is langhda (not being able to walk)
• He is andha (blind)
• He is fat
• He is thin
• I would say it on his face what I am about to tell you
• What i am going to tell you is a secret he or she told me
• You know that friend of yours did this or that…

Why do those people forget who talk like this that if God can make them blind, he can make YOU blind as well. The God who made someone not able to walk properly, can also put YOU in that situation. What’s so special about YOU?

There are ways to get away from this sick habit and stopping others:-

• Leave the group where someone is talking bad about someone
• When you have nothing good to say don’t say it.. will save you from lots of trouble :)
• When you start to talk to someone about another person, ask yourself.. would you want someone else to talk like this about you?

Backbiting and gossiping, my friend, is the worst habits anyone can ever have. It totally messes our personality, and the way people look at us. Not only that, it’s one of the biggest reasons why some people suffer in life and will suffer in the day of qayamat. It’s said that at the day og judgement, those that talk behind someone’s back will have nails of copper and will be ripping their flesh and face with their hands. That’s how bad it is..

What about you guys n gals.. how do you see backbiting?

This is a treat for those ladies that help Iron their hubbies clothes.. And obviously NOT a treat for those brothers who say “I don’t know how to iron” Well below auntie shurlee will show you how to do the istri the shurlee way..

So what type of a guy are you.. an “Iron” man or a Non “Iron” man :)