Monthly Archives: September 2009

I never knew I would come across such people but now I have. And amazingly after speaking with a friend found out that they also have “met” such people. What people? Well I am talking about those that make fun or just joke around people who have a serious illness.

Example:-

A person is deadly ill, and needs proper rest. The one trying to be funny just because they have their relative on a visit that day.. come up with very funny remarks like.. “oh come on you are ok if you want to go out we can put you on a baby cart since you are becoming smaller” or maybe making fun of the individual in a way that makes the other person who is ill feel like as if its their fault that they are ill.

This post has an intention behind it, and its very straight forward on the face. That when you see someone ill, remember that very second consider yourself on their place and then see how it feels when you are saying such.

As I read somewhere.. “Think twice before you say something..once”

God bless!

Siblings!

We all have brothers or sisters, (well ok ok not all) but those of us who do really have to go through lots to deal with them. If we are the eldest then the whole thing becomes even tougher. Since either you will be seen as the duplicate of your dad or mum which your siblings won’t like and on the other hand you might come across as being bossy.

But no matter what, I have learnt that if you are the eldest then the best thing is to be there for your brothers and sisters but don’t force them into doing anything even though if its best for them. Just tell them the reason why you saying it and then back out but be there for them so they can call you up when they need you.

How do you deal with your siblings?

So many time I’ve seen that lack of communication or miscommunication in a relationship [love] lead to so many misunderstandings N at the end when those small small misunderstandings get build up N one don’t pay attention to them, don’t talk about them in other words don’t have a healthy communication – the relationship is on the way to kind of die. I don’t know so much about what others may feel or think, though I like to know views of different individuals, so I keep askin those I know about how they see why a relationship fail – N sadly lack of communication is one of the top reasons.

It’s very very important for two people in a relationship to try N understand each other N respect as well respect one N others opinion N views about stuff – It’s very very important to actually “Listen”  when your other half is sayin something, because hearin him/her is something different, one should Listen N understand.

It’s very easy now days for people to take each other for granted, especially in a love relationship they think that since they now are committed N in a relationship, nothin can go wrong or whatsoever, so they start takin one another for granted, maybe won’t pay much attention to what the other person is sayin, thinkin feelin N so on, everything becomes like a routine N goes on –  which according to me is Deadly for the relationship . Any relationship needs to be worked on, N it need to be given time for that to survive N stay healthy N to bloom :-)

N then there is something else I’ve seen lots now days, assumptions assumptions – we need to know that humans are not mind readers, N even though two people in a relationship love N understand each other does not necessarily mean they can read each others mind all the time [or any time for that matter] – so once again communicate, N talk about how you feel, like, dislike, somethin upsettin you, whether you’re hurt, need help, or anything – make sure you “Ask” N tell instead of keepin somthing in mind N let the distance tear you relationship apart. N this one goes both ways.

One should always make it clear, whatever you have to say, make sure you’re sayin it clearly enough for your loved one to understand it, don’t let them sit N guess what you meant – helpin each other with this is something very nice to do, treat them the way you want to be treated. I always wonder what is the basic reason for jealousy f.eks, why do one suppose get  jealous N give the other one silent treatment whenever anything would come up, I haven’t quite understood it, but this much I can say it that jealously also occurs when there is miscommunication N no talk, when people in a relationship don’t tell each other things N when they don’t share stuff – insecurity take place N poooooooof the trust is on the shaking ground while relationship in a dangerous zone. For God’s sake don’t take relationships so much for granted, work on them instead of quickly ending them N jumping on to next one, because foremost what comes around comes around N secondly with time the new one also gonna end up just like the one you left.

I think it’s very important to realize Why someone are in the relationship in the first place, never forget the love shared, the connection the bond. I personally feel that one should have a very good friendship, so that they can share everythin with each other without being afraid that their loved one gonna judge them or misunderstand them. You never lose anything by involving them in your life as much as possible, tell them anything N everything, trust them N let them trust you. be there for them N let them be there for you. Good communication can only be developed when two people are comfy with one another, or vice versa. If they communicate well they gonna be very comfy N have no issues sharing everything, because they feel secure that their better half is there with them through ups N downs, as their companion their bestfriend N as their love. So, how I see it, communication is the key to a successful healthy relationship – never throw unsolved issues under the bed, because if you keep on doin that, one day  it’s gonna blow up the whole relationship N you got no one to blame but yourself [both in a relationship].

Communicate N accept each others views, disagree or argue[tiny] but keep communicating about everything – N also remember to have respect right there – Always.