Monthly Archives: September 2009

I think alot N since I do that, this topic as well been on my mind for some time now, [like many many others :-P] . I’ve seen so much of people who would say one thing N do the other thing, I start wonderin what to believe? hmmm their actions or their talks? confusion confusion :-) But then I go for actions, because I after being through so much in life, have noticed that actions speak louder than words, big time!

When someone would say something to me N their actions says something else then I know how “Paani Mein” that person is, no doubt from my side. One can’t say I care for you I care for you, you mean a lot to me, I care for you N when you ask that person to bring you a glass of water they goes well I do care for you but water you’ll have to get yourself. Duhhh to pluto planet with such care, that’s not care share there, it’s a lie N only  empty talks.

Similarly if like someone tells us they love us, they wanna spend life with you, they tell you every other second how special you are N how much they wanna spend their life with you etc etc, N they don’t consider sending their parents for “Rishta”,  again empty talks, again send them to pluto planet, don’t fall for it is what I would say. because:  Actions speak louder than words.

Been a time now when I started watchin what people do rather than listening what they say, when they say somethin about me N so on. I would maybe not tell them on their face “hey you’re lying”  But in my heart N mind I know how genuine N how much the concern, care, ,love or anything  is there.  You care for someone, well than they have you attention as well, you don’t only TELL them they are special thing is that you also SHOW them N make them FEEL special as well through you actions.

Kehte Hain Na Ke Aapki Choti Choti Baatein Bata Deingi Ke Aapke Dil Mein Kya Hai, Bilqul Sach Kehte Hain – Mere Liye Koi Mushkil Nahin Raha Samjhna Ke Koi Kitne Paani Mein Hai, Ya Mere Sath Kis Had Tak true N genuine Hai, Main Baaton Ko Sunoongi Zaroor Lekin Us Se Ziyaada Main Dekhongi Ke Wo Karte Kya Hai, Unka behaviour Kaisa Hai Mere Sath, Bas then I decide how much I should invest here.

Time is very very precious thing, N time is that one thing that can creat lot of complications. When you don’t give time to you kids, dangerous as anything! You don’t give quality time to a relationship, disaster is right round the corner to occur! So, basically givin time is like give someone somethin of your life that’s never ever comin back, you can never bring it back no matter what you do – so yeah this speaks alot :-)

I’ve seen how people manipulate their other fellow people, how they cheat betray N hurt them – they would say one thing N then behind their back to the other thing, so what they’re doin behind their back, [the actions N reaction] are their true self N if you wanna have an opinion about how to see them, see what they do, don’t see what they say.

I can say I love AllAh, N I’m tryin to be a good muslim N at the same time I don’t read Namaz N I don’t follow Quran O Sunnah – How can I claim to Love AllAh when I don’t run toward him when he calls me? Isn’t that how it works, if our beloved N the one who we truly love calls us, we would leave everythin N go N see them, if the love is true that is, or we can come up with excuses N exactly you guessed it right, then I would know from excuses how much love is there.

So, dear dear fellow humans on this earth – we should focus on actin what we stand for, because Actions speaks  louder than. . . [rest you know ya] :-D God bless.

I have had a few thoughts about this topic. About promises and how they affect your daily life and your entire life for that matter.

If someone you care about promises you something, a promise that’s only between you and God and them, and no one knows about it. You will get lots of people asking questions.

Tip is to : Not care about anyone at that point and just focus on the promise.

I have had this experience just a few moments ago. On one side I have a promise I made to a dear one and my mother and on the other hand I have to “keep an image” to people who can’t respect that.

So keeping in mind my mum’s promise and love, I am focusing on holding onto the promise I made to her and the loved one and moving on..

So the objective of this post is, if you are going through a time where you have to sit and explain to people about your personal promises.. just don’t, it’s not worth it unless it’s people you find valuable in life. If they still don’t get it, then just pray to God that you are doing your best to stay calm :)

I often see people who are very closed up. Like they don’t want to talk to anyone or maybe if they do, their self awareness quality isn’t polished as such at that point. If you feel you are a bit tiny closed up then these tips might work since i use them daily and manage to befriend every single soul I meet. I am following the one thing these days which goes like this.

“You can’t make people like you, but you can rob them of reasons to dislike you”

1. Smile – VERY IMPORTANT
When I meet someone I always smile, ALWAYS! that’s a must to make them realize that you mean “business”. Or in otherwords that you are interested in them as a person, as an individual.

2. Ask about them
They want to be asked questions. But remember don’t get too personal if you don’t know them well enough. But start off being yourself and work your way through as to what they like. If they are into football (soccer) then drag the conversation into asking if they do some sports or something.

3. Tell them to take care
I always do that, unknowingly (lol). When I handshake someone for the first time, I say “Asalamu alaikum”, the Islamic greeting which means “May peace be upon you” .. so the next time I meet them i always say “ok then take care of yourself ya”… so that kind of sends a signal from my side to the other person that for me their betterment is important. Rather than saying “ok cya”, I always add take care, or “Apna khayal rakheiga” either it’s a teenager or an old person.

What about you? How do you interact with people?