Monthly Archives: December 2009

“Marriage is not a love affair. A love affair is a totally different thing. A marriage is a commitment to that which you are. That person is literally your other half. And you and the other are one. A love affair isn’t that. That is a relationship of pleasure, and when it gets to be unpleasurable , it’s off. But a marriage is a life commitment, and a life commitment means the prime concern of your life. If marriage is not the prime concern, you are not married.” 
-Joseph Campbell

So true, when married realizing the commitment this is how it should be or I should say this is the right way N this is how it Must be – Prime concern. Being committed in such a strong relation should be taken as a commitment. A relationship that you can’t put a name on might be N look very strong, but a relation you actually can give a name to is something totally different. When anyone commit themself in marriage with their free will, then it’s a real shame to even consider walking out, then they need to respect their decision, after all their commitment only tells how they take commitments in life. A marriage of love N an affair of love is totally two different things, the first one got the strongest foundation while the second one is like a candle in the storm which seem to have strong flame hitting left N right but can blow off N become a cold ash anytime. As they say: If it’s worth hiding, it’s not worth having :-)

“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships”
-Anthony Robbins

Very easy to understand this, isn it? That whatever quality your life has, that’s the quality you’ll see in your relationships. But lets say if we turn N twist  meaning of this saying a lil around, it become something like: You relations reflect the quality you’ve given to your life. The way you treat your relationship is exactly the way you treat your life, because ultimately what happens is that you through the way you respect N take relationships tells what qualities you’ve injected in your life N how your life actually is.

There are lots of times one goes through situations where one uses white lies, but what for?

Maybe to not hurt the other person. But have you ever thought that truth can not be painful if it is the truth. In other words what I mean is that when you are saying the truth to someone you are actually doing yourself a big favor to avoid coming up with different stories along the way.

Most people would probably coat the truth a bit to avoid paining someone else but when we look at the deepest level, when we lie we tend to feel uneasy with ourselves at one point or the other. So in order to make sure that we are doing our best bit to keep our mind sane and atleast be truthful to ourselves we just have to be straight on truthful. There is just no other way around this.

Next time you feel that you just can’t tell the truth, do the opposite and do say it. You and the other person will go through a temporary drift but if both realize the value of truth nothing can go wrong.

How do you define being truthful? Have you ever said something else apart from the truth to avoid hurting someone?