Monthly Archives: December 2009

“The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make / not just on your wedding day, but over and over again / and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.”
Barbra De Angelis

N I think this is exactly how it should be, A marriage is after all a promise of being good N faithful to the taken decision. When one marry with their whole heart it’s so much easier to respect the marriage as well as the person in it [your other half]. Still one need to remind themself over N over again why they in the first place are together, the heart that  accepted this whole thing must be the witness N keep on reminding the person their commitment. The choice that you make when deciding to marry someone is the actual wedding, N from that day one need to actually see N consider themself as married because as said marriages are decided in hearts N then preformed in lives. The way a husband treat his wife, tells a lot about how he treat himself, because she’s without any doubt his better half N vice versa. So, this is a choice, a decision, a commitment made from heart to heart N should be treated with full heart :-)

People usually fail because they are on a path which leads to totally unrealistic goals. You can just not reach the sky if you are going to use a few air baloons tied to your hands like the cartoon, UP. It doesn’t work that way.

To succeed one has to go through a tough process of learning and making mistakes. The way I have seen people climb the ladder is sometimes by taking shortcuts. Well the only way to climb a mountain is by taking one step at a time, while I do agree one can take a helicopter as well but there are certain places that won’t reach either.

Taking baby steps is the best thing to do when you want to learn how to walk and then run. And so what if you fall in the way, didn’t you fall when you were a baby? That made you aware that “Ok if i walk this way I will fall, if I walk like this with a balance I won’t fall”.

So reasons why people fail can be defined in such a way:-

• They have no passion at all in what they are doing
• They are totally ignorant of the fact that if they don’t succeed ones they can always try again
• And they have absolutely no faith in their skills and themselves

Remember, if you don’t trust your skills, no one else will either

There are various ways one can often pin point a person but there are a few things and qualities one can see in a person to determine if they are a “good” person or not. Just mentioning the 5 signs of a good man, you might add or deduct the ones you see fit.

1. Respectful
   He has to respect the relationship, if he doesn’t he definitly is not worth the time is he? Respect comes from the way he is brought up to treat women and other people. So not only how he treats other women but how he manages other people from the same gender has a lot to say.
2. Loving
   This is a very good quality, and certainly one that all people want to possess. What is loving? Is it being lovey dovey all the time or showing the love and affection in certain ways throughout the time spent with you. I guess loving stands quite high on the list.
3. Caring
   This is a very important quality of a “good” man. Caring and having a heart is very important. It has to beat for the rigth reasons.
4. Honest
   He has to be honest, if he isn’t honest in the relationship in any certain point in life. Honesty is everything in a relationship.
5. Motivation
   He has to have the courage and motivation to go through the tough path of life along with you. He can manage it himself but is better at it when he is with you.

Any thing you wish to add, girls n guys?