Monthly Archives: July 2010

Was just helpin my mom with makin food for the next day, as they had some guest invited over. My mom asked me to come as well, she wished me to be there, N I said:  Mama, I’m not well myself N beside it’s not good na come everyday when married :-P but she insisted. I said, will think about it. At night I though okie I can go, Life is so unpredictable N my mom wished me to be there, if she’s happy with me N I listen to her, my kids will as well care for me. Selfish huh! But that’s how it is, we humans can get selfish sometimes, Thouhg that’s just a thought that hit my mind when I sometimes say No to my parents about anythin, So I instantly change my mind. But most of time, Being nice to them is somethin I do for God only N because I love them of course :-)

What happened the other day when all guest were about to come, just two hours left. Mom went down to have a quick shower N instead she went to bedroom without any kind of feelings in leg N arm, couldn’t talk properly N neither could ask for help. THANK GOD that my brother was around N he went to just say hi hello to mom, then he called us down worried about what’s this happening to mom?? when I went downstairs I knew that it’s a minor brain stoke symptoms. We called the ambulance N they came within 5mins. Sitting there next to my mom in the ambulance with tears in my eyes N heart but being strong outside for my bros, dad N sweet sis – prayin for my mom to get well, I had one thought in my mind: What if I had decided not to come today, N instead someone would call me at my place N told what had happened? Would I ever forgive myself  for not being here? As far as I know myself; Never!

My mom got help, N now Masha-Allah, Alhamdulillah she is perfectly alright, no such after effects or anythin, Alhamdulillah! But, I was think sometimes we  realize how dear somebody is to us only when somethin like this happen N when there is moment when this thought hit us that OMG what if we lose them, when somethin serious happens we realize how big part of our life they are, N how much we actually love them. N especially when it comes to parents I feel such incidents are moments of realizations that they are the pearls of our life, they are the force that keeps us walking through any kind of phases in life,  there is nothin without them. I had that rare kind of realization now two days back now N I feel I  now value every moment more with my parents, I appriciate this life more, N am glad I did listen to my mom. I’m happy N  am thankful to God that I’m not left with a regret for not being there with my mom N for my family in such time :-) Sometimes we can’t put words to our feelings, because how we feel is beyond words. 

I just pray that such kind of realization can take place without someone being on edge of life, I wish we can learn to appriciate N value our dear ones before it’s too late. [Ameen-sum-Ameen].

What are your views on guys that hit women. I mean its the silliest and stupidest thing they can do no matter how you look at it. Most of the times guy are very close to their mothers, but when they are talking to the mother of “their” children they tend to forget how lovely this relation is.

I can’t recall any guy being “loved” by everyone around him for being such a way to his wife. But still guys tend to show off when they are kind of “tough” on their wives, as I often see in dramas and movies which usually are reflection of the society we live in. Why is it such?

So what kind of treatment should be given to a guy such as that? What about the women who hit men?

There are times in life when we decide to make a promise to someone, time when someone would look in your eyes with such pain that you have no choice but to say: Don’t you worry, I won’t let you down – N even if you had any choice you still would have said the same – some people are just way to precious, So making any promise to them is taken seriously N with heart.

When that someone is no more apart of our lives, still the promise made that time have its effect, N we simply have to keep that promise to actually live with ourself.  Whether we like it or not, we need to make sure we don’t let them down, so that we fearless can face the mirror N live with peace.

Promises are not to be taken lightly, How seriously you take your promises basically tells alot about what we value N how trustworthy we are. It’s not like this that : Aankh aunchal, Pahard Aunchal! One should not insult “a promise” like this, it’s just not fair!

I think: We make a promise for someone, to tell them they can count on us, but we keep a promise for ourself , to actually feel that we got somethin we live upto – maybe not easy to understand this but if we really look at it, this is exactly how it is :-) Atleast I see it this way!