Monthly Archives: March 2011

So how true is it? I mean is it really how we see things these days? Is this how we judge people?

Some say “But we can’t see the inner-beauty”

Who says you can’t?

Inner-beauty reflects on the face, on the way you carry yourself and in your conversation.

If you are a beautiful person inside, you will not have to work on anything else than let it shine through.

On the other hand, if someone is rude, obnoxious and has no sense to respect others then no matter how “beautiful” according to the fashion magazines he or she is, they will be the “ugliest” person in the world.

What’s Ugly?
No one can define this word. I mean, for one person an individual might be like an angel, while for someone else he or she can be not so pleasant to look at.

What is pleasant-looking?
Well, when I said that word I felt weird myself, why do we use such words to define others? Can’t we just be like we used to be when we were babies?

The times when we looked at a very dark person, we smiled and ran towards them because they smiled at us. Why can’t we just be like the old days when were tiny babies and smile at whoever looks at us, and not judge them the way they look?

Wouldn’t the world be a beautiful place, with beautiful people?

Inner beauty, is what we all have to work on, including me. If I am “good looking” inside, there is nothing that can “uglify” me, and if I am ugly inside, no make-up artist in the entire world can make me look “good”.

Drop the fashion magazine look for once, and pamper your “inner” self. Because after all, that’s what counts! :)

Seeing raping a woman as the most pathetic and inhumane thing a person can ever do I thought maybe it would be a good thing to gather a few tips I have found from here and there as to how women “or men” can save themselves from being raped..

This article is derived from various sources and is part of an interview with group and date rapists.  The following is what the rapists said they keep in mind, and if they could give tips as to how people can save themselves from being raped.

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1. First thing the rapist looks for is the hairstyle. They most likely go for one with ponytail, bun, braid or one that can be easily grabbed. Long haired women are more of a target than shorter hair ones.
2. Clothing is the second thing they look for. They will look for women who are wearing little clothes and especially those that are easier to remove. Some rapists also carry scissors.
3. Women with cellphones, or those that are doing other things while walking, like checking their bag etc are potential victim, since they are off guard.
4. Early mornings are their prime time, between 5 am to 8 am, but that depends on your location as to how dark it is.
5. Grocery parking lots, office parking lots and public restrooms are places women are usually abducted from. So be careful girls, don’t just sit in your car eating ice-cream , sit in the car and drive off straight away!
6. Put up a fight! A rapist gets discouraged after a minute or two since he doesn’t see it worth it. Convince him that you aren’t worth it!
7. If someone is following you, turn around and face them asking a simple question or small talk. “What a weather today” or “It’s so cold isn’t it” This is to see their face so you can identify them in a line-up, majority of rapists don’t find this so amusing and run off.
8. Most rapists said that if a woman yells STOP or STAY BACK when we approach her they’d leave her alone because first it creates a scene, and secondly it shows she’s not an easy target!
9. If you are grabbed from behind, pinch the attacker as hard as you can between elbow and armpit. Remember VERY VERY HARD. (btw I tried it on me and man it hurts).
10. The last tip is kind of rough. If someone is hiding in the backseat and says DRIVE AWAY, just don’t do it! Drive as fast as you can “hoping you have an air-bag in your car” and smash it into something. Chances are 99.9% the air bag will save you while the rapist will get his head banged and end up in the hospital.

Something I read N defintely worth saving on our space! ;-)

The Past Is Gone Forever;

By brooding over the past and its tragedies, one exhibits a form of insanity – a kind of sickness that destroys resolve to live for the present moment. Those who have a firm purpose have filed away and forgotten occurrences of the past, which will never again see light, since they occupy such a dark place in the recesses of the mind.

Episodes of the past are finished with; sadness cannot retrieve them, melancholy cannot make things right, and depression will never bring the past back to life. This is because the past is non-existent.

Do not live in the nightmares of former times or under the shade of what you have missed. Save yourself from the ghostly apparition of the past. Do you think that you can return the sun to its place of rising, the baby to its mother’s womb, milk to the udder, or tears to the eye? By constantly dwelling on the past and its happenings, you place yourself in a very frightful and tragic state of mind.

Reading too much into the past is a waste of the present. When Allah mentioned the affairs of the previous nations, He, the Exalted, said:

That was a nation who has passed away.  (Qur’an 2. 134)

Former days are gone and done with, and you benefit nothing by carrying out an autopsy over them, by turning back the wheels of history.

The person who lives in the past is like someone who tries to saw sawdust. Of old, they used to say: “Do not remove the dead from their graves.”

Our tragedy is that we are incapable of dealing with the present: neglecting our beautiful castles, we wail over dilapidated buildings. If every man and every jinn were to try jointly to bring back the past, they would most certainly fail. Everything on earth marches forward, preparing for a new season and so should you.

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Today is all that you have;

When you wake up in the morning, do not expect to see the evening live as though today is all that you have. Yesterday has passed with its good and evil, while tomorrow has not yet arrived. Your life’s span is but one day, as if you were born in it and will die at the end of it. With this attitude, you will not be caught between an obsession over the past, with all its anxieties, and the hopes of the future, with all its uncertainty. Live for today: During this day you should pray with a wakeful heart, recite the Qur’an with understanding, and remember Allah with sincerity. In this day you should be balanced in your affairs, satisfied with your allotted portion, concerned with your appearance and health.

Organize the hours of this day, so that you make years out of minutes and months out of seconds. Seek forgiveness from your Lord, remember Him, prepare for the final parting from this world, and live today happily and at peace. Be content with your sustenance, your wife, your children, your work, your house and your station in life.

So hold that which I have given you and be of the grateful. (Qur’an 7: 144)

You must engrave onto your heart one phrase: Today is my only day. If you have eaten warm, fresh bread today, then what do yesterday’s dry, rotten bread and tomorrow’s anticipated bread matter?

If you are truthful with yourself and have a firm, solid resolve, you will undoubtedly convince yourself of the following: Today is my last day to live. When you achieve this attitude, you will profit from every moment of your day, by developing your personality, expanding your abilities, and purifying your deeds. Then you say to yourself:

Today I shall be refined in my speech and will utter neither evil speech nor obscenity. Also, I shall not backbite.

Today I shall organize my house and my office. They will not be disorderly and chaotic, but organized and neat.

Today I will be particular about my bodily cleanliness and appearance. I will be meticulous in my neatness and balanced in my walk, talk, and actions.

Today I will strive to be obedient to my Lord, pray in the best manner possible, do more voluntary acts of righteousness, recite the Qur’an, and read beneficial books. I will plant goodness into my heart and extract from it the roots of evil   such as pride, jealousy, and hypocrisy.

Today I will try to help others to visit the sick, to attend a
funeral, to guide the one who is lost, and to feed the hungry. I will stand side by side with the oppressed and the weak. I will pay respect to the scholar, be merciful to the young, and reverent to the old.

O’ past that has departed and is gone, I will not cry over you. You will not see me remembering you, not even for a moment, because you have traveled away from me never to return.

O’ future, you are in the realm of the unseen, so I will not be obsessed by your dreams. I will not be preoccupied about what is to come because tomorrow is nothing and has not yet been created.

`Today is my only day’ is one of the most important statements in the dictionary of happiness, for those who desire to live life in its fullest splendor and brilliance.

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Leave the future alone until it comes;

Be not hasty and rushed for things that have yet to come to pass. Do you think it is wise to pick fruits before they become ripe? Tomorrow is non-existent, having no reality today, so why should you busy yourself with it? Why should you have apprehensions about future disasters? Why should you be engrossed by their thoughts, especially since you do not know whether you will even see tomorrow?

The important thing to know is that tomorrow is from the world of the unseen, a bridge that we do not cross until it comes. Who knows, perhaps we might never reach the bridge, or the bridge might collapse before we reach it, or we may actually reach it and cross safely.

For us to be engrossed in expectations about the future is looked down upon in our religion since it leads to our having a long-term attachment to this world, an attachment that the good believer shuns. Many people of this world are unduly fearful of future poverty, hunger, disease, and disaster: such thinking is inspired by the Devil.

Satan threatens you with poverty and orders you to commit Fahsha [evil deeds, illegal sexual intercourse, sins etc.], whereas Allah promises you Forgiveness from Himself and Bounty… (Qur’an 2: 268)

Many are those who cry because they see themselves starving tomorrow, falling sick after a month, or because they fear that the world will come to an end after a year. Someone who has no clue as to when he wil die (which is all of us) should not busy himself with such thoughts.

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[From the book; Don't be sad, By Al-Qarni] ;-) Jazak-Allah!