Expectations often lead to disappointments, N leave us thinkin what we did wrong that they acted the way they did or leave us wondering why people connected to us behave the way they do N not the way We wish them to. Mostly or I should say almost always it’s all about our expectation that we feel someone is hurting us, that they are not fair N not good to us – what I’ve seen is that usuly it has nothing to do with the other person it’s their own expectation towards those people that actually makes them so vulnerable N touchy touchy :-)
Since the day I started havin less expectations, life’s become a lil easier I feel – but sadly since this having expectations comes so natural N without one deciding whether to expect or not, this thing still sometimes bugging me hmmm – N when I get disappointed at someone, I get hurt, I feel sad N I even start cryin hmm – but the good thing is I’m over it v v quickly, the sec I tell myself hey it’s nothing to do with the other person, it’s me N what I expected that actually did let me down, so Balle Balle all alright :-)
Kehte Hain Na Ke Insaan Kabhi Apko Koi Dukh Nahin Deta,Yeh Humari Tawaquaat/Umeedein [Expectations] Hoti Hain Jo Humko Dard De Jaati Hain, Aur Hum Samjhte Hain Ke Duniya Ne Humare Sath Accha Nahin Kiya.
Now days I feel it’s better not to have hightexpectations with our loved ones, family, friends let go the world that we are not related to of that kind – Less expectations fever disappointments! :-)
When someone don’t behave or respond to anythin the way We want it/them to, we get emotional N sad that they let us down, that they disappointed us etc etc, but what’s the truth N reality? It’s what we expected from them that actually disappointed us, it’s us who in actual had this image about them that they gona do this N that, which they maybe don’t have a clue about is the funny thing - but what we need to realize is that nobody ever gona behave the way we expect them to – every individual have different way of seeing things N acting/reacting to them.
Healthy expectations are v much needed in life, like you expect your hubby/wife to be faithful N loyal to you – you expect you parents/kids to love N care for you, you expect your friends to be genuine to you – well N good, these are not at all unhealthy expectations, in fact this is the way how life N world works. Things get sour N the wrong way when expectations cross the limit N gets way over the line. Like if I expect my parents to agree with me on each N every thing I do N say – like if anyone expect that their partner have to sit in front of their eyes 24/7 – like if anyone expect that their friends have to tell them each N everythin happening in their lives – that’s bit too much N when this happens, gettin disappointed is is right round the corner :-)
I personally think some individuals expect too much from themselves as well, one shouldn’t be cruel N to tough on themself – but yes havin more expectations from yourself than from the world around is wise thing I guess. So, think realistic – be realistic – N expect realistically is what I would advice :-) Judge less, love more – God bless.
Peaceful