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A long time ago, there was a huge apple tree. A little boy loved to come and play around it everyday. He climbed to the treetop, ate the apples, took a nap under the shadow, he loved the tree and the tree loved to play with him. Time went by ,the little boy had grown up and he no longer played around the tree every day.

One day, the boy came back to the tree and he looked sad . “Come and play with me” the tree asked the boy. “I am no longer a kid, I do not play around trees any more” the boy replied. “I want toys. I need money to buy them.” “Sorry, but I do not have money, but you can pick all my apples and sell them. So, you will have money.” The boy was so excited. He grabbed all the apples on the tree and left happily. The boy never came back after he picked the apples. The tree was deeply saddened.

One day, the boy who now turned into a man returned and the tree was excited “Come and play with me” the tree said. “I do not have time to play. I have to work for my family. We need a house for shelter. Can you help me ? ” ” Sorry, but I do not have any house. But you can chop off my branches to build your house.” So the man cut all the branches of the tree and left happily. The tree was glad to see him happy but the man never came back since then. The tree was again lonely and upset.

One hot summer day, the man returned and the tree was delighted. “Come and play with me!” the tree said. “I am getting old. I want to go sailing to relax myself. Can you give me a boat ?” said the man . “Use my trunk to build your boat. You can sail far away and be happy.” So the man cut the tree trunk to make a boat. He went sailing and never showed up for a long time.

Finally, the man returned after many years. ” Sorry, my boy. But I do not have anything for you anymore. No more apples for you …” the tree said. “No problem, I do not have any teeth to bite” the man replied. “No more trunk for you to climb on” “I am too old for that now” the man said. “I really cannot give you anything, the only thing left is my dying roots” the tree said with tears. “I do not need much now, just a place to rest. I am tired after all these years” the man replied. “Good! Old tree roots are the best place to lean on and rest, Come, come sit down with me and rest.” The man sat down and the tree was glad and smiled with tears! . . .

This is a story for everyone!
The tree is like our parents
When we were young, we loved to play with our Mum and Dad!
When we grow up, we leave them,only come to them when we need something or when we are in trouble.
No matter what,
parents will always be there and
give everything they could
just to make you happy.

You may think the boy is cruel to the tree, but sadly that is how almost all of us treat our parents. We take them for granted we don’t appreciate all they do for us, UNTIL it’s too late. May Allah forgive us of our shortcomings and may He Guide us! Insha-Allah! [Ameen-sum-Ameen]

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say:

“Ae Allah! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.”

Last I just want to say Jazak-Allah to whoever shared this example, N no doubt it’s a great reminder for all of us. The stage I am at, very soon to Insha-Allah be a Mother a parent N a daughter who love her parents I could not stop myself from sharing this piece of writing since it touched me deeply N am sure if you’re  a parent or a kid [even if grown up N old], or even if you’re just a human being it will for sure touch your heart as well. The whole world at one side N  your Parents smile at one!

I came across this video, and I loved it :-)  she’s  such a cutie pie, may Allah bless her in this life and in life hereafter!  Indeed, babies learn what parents teach them from very young age, it’s misunderstood thing that they can’t get it when they so young, they just kids, we will make them pray and do good deeds when they’ll grow bit older etc etc etc. Oh, no. It exactly when they are this young that they will actually learn and remember the teachings. If it’s being played music and people around included parents clap, laugh and motivate the kid to dance and do Bhangda with his/her tiny legs and arms, then definitely parents can’t blame them for getting addicted to music when they teenager. Similarly when parents would tell them in a cool and calm way that my sweetheart child, dancing and music is not for us Muslims, for us it’s salah/Namaz for us it’s Reciting Quraan and listening to it, from very young age when parents start injecting what is wrong and right- then Insha-Allah parents will not say when their kids will reach the age of teenager that “Oh, God they are out of control”  – Insha-Allah. Not being strict when kids do something non-islamically and not tell them about their religion Islam, thinking they got their whole life to learn about this, is the biggest mistake any parent can do, whether it is a baby-girl or a baby-boy both deserve the proper attention and time, it’s their right to be told about their religion in all matters, they deserved to be explainded about things not yelled at for not getting it. Rest Allah knows best, and Allah will never let the effort go astray. Am so thankful to Allah Almighty that I and my hubby have the same mindset about these things, and Insha-Allah with help from Allah we will not make all mistakes that we see around, when parents are on the same side, the child will understand that here he/she can not mess or manipulate. It’s extremly important for kids to know that we are their best friend ever, as well as their parents and for us to know that we are their parents first then their best friend, Allah will ask us about our kids, and we will be answerable for whatever they do, because the question will be: How well did we fulfill our duty when it comes to their upbringing- after all they were nothing, it’s our teachings as parents that made them the way they are.  No parents would wish they children to burn in hellfire, or have a miserable life, am quite sure no parents can every want that for their kid, and for that they will have to start saving them from the very beginning, let it be by being strict, better to wake up now than sitting helpless when kids don’t listen to you, basically the very bitter fact it that they don’t understand the language  now when grown up because as parents you didn’t teach them this language when  they were young and learning and now they don’t feel like learning the new language  hmm Allah mercy!  Allah give us and all others [parents or parents to be] the ability and strength to see the reality before it’s too late. Ameen-sum-Ameen!

This thought just crossed my mind, while I was sitting N wondering about stuff happening here N there, in our lives as well as what’s happening around the world. When you tell someone something nice [I say nice becasue usuly you hear it when you tell N hear somethin islamic]  Have heard this thing so much: “Woh to theek hai, Lekin . . . .” N then they complete the sentence with whatsoever the talk is about. Let me add some examples so we know what I’m talking about;

Aapko maloom hai ke Allah ko Jhooth napasand hai, phir bhi? Answer: woh to theek hai, Lekin. .  .Agar hum unhe sacch bata dete to woh karz na dete.
Time ho gaya hai aur Aapko pata hai ke Namaz bagair kisi bouhat hi  khaas majboori ke qaza nahin ki ja sakti? Answer:  woh to theek hai, lekin. . main makeup sath nahin laayi, wodu kaise karoon? Ya phir:  woh to theek hai, lekin. . train miss ho jayegi.
Is tarha ke lovy dovy gaane sunna aur music haraam hai, agle jahan saza milegi, aap jante bhi ho phir bhi sun rahe hain? Answer: Woh to theek hai, Lekin. . .aise to shaadi mein maza nahin ata na, apni hi awazon ka shor hoga.
Bina shaadi ke muhabbat ka yeh riwaaj zina hai, aur iski bouhat pakad hogi upar, phir aap log is mein kyon trapped ho? Answer: Woh to theek hai, lekin. . . “Humari/Meri” muhabbat sacchi hai.
Yeh tight jeans aur istarha ke Libaas ki Islam Ijazat nahin deta hai, why don’t you wear something else, There is so much nice to wear, why don’t you dress bit modest  in islamicly meanings] ? Answer: Woh to theek hai, Lekin. . . Fashion ke  saath chalna pardta hai, warna log ghoor ghoor ke dekhte hain. I don’t want to look different.
Roze rakhna har Baligh Muslim pe farz hai, phir aap roze kyoon nahin rakhte? Answer: Woh to theek hai, lekin. . . Mujhe pyaas lag jaati hai na, Itna lamba roza hota hai.
Apne Parents ko uff tak karne ka hukam nahin hai, tum itna daant kar kaise bol sakte ho, Allah se darna chahiye!! Answe: Woh to theek hai, lekin. . . Woh baat hi aisi karte hain, gussa aa jata hai, they don’t understand hmmm.
etc etc etc etc etc etc etc. . . loads N loads of these “Woh to theek hai, Lekin. . . ” If you look around you’ll see yourself how awfully this is happening. :-|

I wonder: achiving something by lying, is it worth it? Is it really worth it, Yahan jhoot bole bina karz nahin milega, Lekin Allah ki narazgi qubool hai, uski nafarmani karke kya jannat milegi?
Makeup keliye namaz qaza kar dena, Allah chahe to with makeup you’ll look as bad as without it. Train nikal jaayegi huh? Jannat haath se nikal jaayegi, kya yeh sauda akalmandi ka hai? Shaadiyon pe ya waise hi gaane music sunna ke apni awazon ka shor hota hai, kya us jahan apni Cheekh o pukaar sun seh paoge, jab saza di jayegi? Jab shadi bina Muhabbat ka koi tasawur hi nahin hai, aur Allah ne aise amal se mana kiya hai, to phir sacchi jhooti kya hai, Allah jab poochega ke jab mana kiya hua tha yeh to kyoon yeh amal kiya, to kya jawab hoga? Ke neeyat saaf thi? Lekin naik neeyat bina naik amal to koi mautbir nahin hoti hai, amaal to neeyat ke ainadaar nahin hote? Allah ke samne sharminda hone ki taqt hai kya?  You talk about Fashion, N what people will think of you, what about what Allah Almighty will think of you?  You don’t owe this world anything, but you owe your life to Allah. You don’t wanna “look”  different ya, will you be able to bear standing all alone infront of the gate of Jahannum, what then? Wouldn’t eveyone look at how different you look then? You say your parents makes you angry, that they don’t understand you N your opinion? Are you kidding me, they understood your “Ishaare” when you were all helpless N couldn’t even say a word, is that all forgotten? Are you so blind?  N don’t you forget: as you sow, so shall you reap. Be nice to your parents so that your kids will be good to you!!!

Sometimes I feel ashamed, are we really that weak? We call ourself proud muslims, N so many time, soo so many time we use this thing: Woh to theek hai, lekin. . . when someone tell us something Islamic -  I mean how shameful is this? Where are our priorities?!  we’re talking about something that ALLAH has orderd us, N still we dare to say this? Allah mercy!!! This is what we call: commiting sins “knowingly/ willingly” – Astagfirullah! Allah forgive us all, N make us true Muslims, not only by names hmm  but with actionswith Naik Amaal, May he guide us on the right path, the path that leads us to Allah’s raza N his Jannat, N protect us from hellfire N  Jahanum. [Ameen-sum-Ameen] :-| (more…)