Posts Tagged Motivation

“As long as you shine, give, produce and have an effect upon other, then disapproval and condemnation will be your lot in life. Until you escape from people by finding a tunnel in the ground or a ladder leading to the sky, they will not desist from censuring you, from finding fault in your character. For that reason, as long as you are from the denizens of earth, expect to be hurt, to be insulted and to be criticized.” :-) Quoted from the Book: Don’t be sad.

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I came across this video, and I loved it :-)  she’s  such a cutie pie, may Allah bless her in this life and in life hereafter!  Indeed, babies learn what parents teach them from very young age, it’s misunderstood thing that they can’t get it when they so young, they just kids, we will make them pray and do good deeds when they’ll grow bit older etc etc etc. Oh, no. It exactly when they are this young that they will actually learn and remember the teachings. If it’s being played music and people around included parents clap, laugh and motivate the kid to dance and do Bhangda with his/her tiny legs and arms, then definitely parents can’t blame them for getting addicted to music when they teenager. Similarly when parents would tell them in a cool and calm way that my sweetheart child, dancing and music is not for us Muslims, for us it’s salah/Namaz for us it’s Reciting Quraan and listening to it, from very young age when parents start injecting what is wrong and right- then Insha-Allah parents will not say when their kids will reach the age of teenager that “Oh, God they are out of control”  – Insha-Allah. Not being strict when kids do something non-islamically and not tell them about their religion Islam, thinking they got their whole life to learn about this, is the biggest mistake any parent can do, whether it is a baby-girl or a baby-boy both deserve the proper attention and time, it’s their right to be told about their religion in all matters, they deserved to be explainded about things not yelled at for not getting it. Rest Allah knows best, and Allah will never let the effort go astray. Am so thankful to Allah Almighty that I and my hubby have the same mindset about these things, and Insha-Allah with help from Allah we will not make all mistakes that we see around, when parents are on the same side, the child will understand that here he/she can not mess or manipulate. It’s extremly important for kids to know that we are their best friend ever, as well as their parents and for us to know that we are their parents first then their best friend, Allah will ask us about our kids, and we will be answerable for whatever they do, because the question will be: How well did we fulfill our duty when it comes to their upbringing- after all they were nothing, it’s our teachings as parents that made them the way they are.  No parents would wish they children to burn in hellfire, or have a miserable life, am quite sure no parents can every want that for their kid, and for that they will have to start saving them from the very beginning, let it be by being strict, better to wake up now than sitting helpless when kids don’t listen to you, basically the very bitter fact it that they don’t understand the language  now when grown up because as parents you didn’t teach them this language when  they were young and learning and now they don’t feel like learning the new language  hmm Allah mercy!  Allah give us and all others [parents or parents to be] the ability and strength to see the reality before it’s too late. Ameen-sum-Ameen!

There are various ways one can often pin point a person but there are a few things and qualities one can see in a person to determine if they are a “good” person or not. Just mentioning the 5 signs of a good man, you might add or deduct the ones you see fit.

1. Respectful
   He has to respect the relationship, if he doesn’t he definitly is not worth the time is he? Respect comes from the way he is brought up to treat women and other people. So not only how he treats other women but how he manages other people from the same gender has a lot to say.
2. Loving
   This is a very good quality, and certainly one that all people want to possess. What is loving? Is it being lovey dovey all the time or showing the love and affection in certain ways throughout the time spent with you. I guess loving stands quite high on the list.
3. Caring
   This is a very important quality of a “good” man. Caring and having a heart is very important. It has to beat for the rigth reasons.
4. Honest
   He has to be honest, if he isn’t honest in the relationship in any certain point in life. Honesty is everything in a relationship.
5. Motivation
   He has to have the courage and motivation to go through the tough path of life along with you. He can manage it himself but is better at it when he is with you.

Any thing you wish to add, girls n guys?