Posts Tagged Regret

Was just helpin my mom with makin food for the next day, as they had some guest invited over. My mom asked me to come as well, she wished me to be there, N I said:  Mama, I’m not well myself N beside it’s not good na come everyday when married :-P but she insisted. I said, will think about it. At night I though okie I can go, Life is so unpredictable N my mom wished me to be there, if she’s happy with me N I listen to her, my kids will as well care for me. Selfish huh! But that’s how it is, we humans can get selfish sometimes, Thouhg that’s just a thought that hit my mind when I sometimes say No to my parents about anythin, So I instantly change my mind. But most of time, Being nice to them is somethin I do for God only N because I love them of course :-)

What happened the other day when all guest were about to come, just two hours left. Mom went down to have a quick shower N instead she went to bedroom without any kind of feelings in leg N arm, couldn’t talk properly N neither could ask for help. THANK GOD that my brother was around N he went to just say hi hello to mom, then he called us down worried about what’s this happening to mom?? when I went downstairs I knew that it’s a minor brain stoke symptoms. We called the ambulance N they came within 5mins. Sitting there next to my mom in the ambulance with tears in my eyes N heart but being strong outside for my bros, dad N sweet sis – prayin for my mom to get well, I had one thought in my mind: What if I had decided not to come today, N instead someone would call me at my place N told what had happened? Would I ever forgive myself  for not being here? As far as I know myself; Never!

My mom got help, N now Masha-Allah, Alhamdulillah she is perfectly alright, no such after effects or anythin, Alhamdulillah! But, I was think sometimes we  realize how dear somebody is to us only when somethin like this happen N when there is moment when this thought hit us that OMG what if we lose them, when somethin serious happens we realize how big part of our life they are, N how much we actually love them. N especially when it comes to parents I feel such incidents are moments of realizations that they are the pearls of our life, they are the force that keeps us walking through any kind of phases in life,  there is nothin without them. I had that rare kind of realization now two days back now N I feel I  now value every moment more with my parents, I appriciate this life more, N am glad I did listen to my mom. I’m happy N  am thankful to God that I’m not left with a regret for not being there with my mom N for my family in such time :-) Sometimes we can’t put words to our feelings, because how we feel is beyond words. 

I just pray that such kind of realization can take place without someone being on edge of life, I wish we can learn to appriciate N value our dear ones before it’s too late. [Ameen-sum-Ameen].

There is only one thing more painful than learning from experience and that is not learning from experience.
- Archibald Macleish

 N unfortunately we all have to go through this pain because we are not that good with learning from experiences. If something happens, we sit N cry over it N we decide not to repeat the same mistake but sadly in very short time we are up N once again walking on the same road to the same destination. I would not call it human nature, rather this is silly. So yes I fully agree with this quote which says that not learning from our experiences is far more painful than learning from it. Only if we could see our experiences as a learning progress N actually learn from than instead of  later on crying on them. Good experiences as well as bad both teach us loads of things N tells us what to do N what not to do, so I guess we really should learn from our experiences as well as from others. To make this life a bit easier it’s very important to actually keep the whole picture in the mind whenever doing anything, remembering what happened last time, N not to mention have a look around to see whether others experiences can give you a helping hand. Not learning from our experiences can eventually leave us with  many regrets.

”I lose my temper, but it’s all over in a minute,” said the student. ”So is the hydrogen bomb,” I replied. ”But think of the damage it produces!
George Sweeting.

Wow – what a great way of sayin how dangerous losing temper can be. C this is the exactly thing one need to realize: the power of one minute the power of giving control of your mind in someone elses hand, in hands of the person whos attitude, action, reaction or whatsoever you actually didn’t like at that very minute, now tell me isn’t that a silly thing to do? First thing: you’re mad at anyone, secondly: you giving your powerful brain in that persons hands to control it as they wish, how foolish act is that. It’s very human N natural to get angry to lose temper but what really count is how we act when in that state, N I believe that’s exactly the time when one should take control N realize that getting angry is their right, but  the right  of getting cruel N violent? NO! Nobody is given the right to be cruel or violent to anyone. One minute is 60 sec N losing temper for 60 sec can cause unrepairable damage, know this N take charge N control over your temper before it takes  control over you N your life. Things don’t always go our way, N why would they, it’s not suppose to be this way – N we have to accept that. We wouldn’t lose our temper if we could make ourself realize this small secret: We can ONLY control OUR actions N reactions :-)